The Gentleman Is The New Bad Boy


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The gentleman is the next evolutionary phase of man.

He is one who rises above the need for brute force or primal instincts to make his mark or solve his problems. His focus is in building himself (and others) up through self improvement, rather than from bringing others down.


A true gentleman will show respect to everyone around him. He will not be condescending or put anyone down, regardless of intelligence level or professional position. A man of integrity and confidence finds no use in degrading others. This especially includes women, animals, and children.

He does not compare himself or make a point to be “better” than his fellow man. His confidence is rooted within him, not in his superiority to others.

He understands others and his first instinct is to extinguish a volatile situation through the use of words and reason. The modern gentleman is one who has developed himself beyond the use of violence, but still knows how to use it if absolutely necessary, as a last resort – he will protect his family and loved ones at all costs.


A gentleman maintains his appearance. He will pay attention to how he presents himself to others. He understands that it doesn’t only show respect for himself, but also for those around him. The statement he makes through dressing well is that he is respecting others by putting effort into how he presents himself to them.

A gentleman prides himself on always learning about the world around him, and in doing so, it is natural to be wrong at times. He accepts these scenarios as learning experiences and therefore welcomes discussions and even being corrected. He has evolved past being controlled by his ego.

He shows compassion. He understands that regardless of what society tells you, emotions are not just for women. A gentleman understands that if a woman is considering something long term & building a family with, she won’t want her children raised by a statue. She will also want to be loved, taken care of, and understood.


A gentleman is chivalrous, but not just towards women – towards everyone. He maintains a lifestyle that is respectful to all, and inspires others to adopt his values through his positive actions. If he encounters negative or unappreciative responses from others, he does not let it affect him. He is a gentleman towards others because of who he is, not because of who they are.

The New Chivalry Movement is being moved forward by men and women who hold higher standards for themselves and those that they commit their time to. People who exemplify the forward progress of the human race and are leading by example.

We salute you all.

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  1. Pamela Ross on January 30, 2014 at 2:57 pm

    Very well said as always, James. Thank you 🙂

  2. Shaahid EssWhyDee on January 30, 2014 at 3:57 pm

    Nice article…

  3. Terry L. White on January 30, 2014 at 5:50 pm

    Good article (as usual!) Question: How does the Gentleman deal with a fantastic woman who is chronically (truly almost always) late? It is frustrating to even let her set the times for things, only to have the time go by, and then get a phone call saying she is running late and should be there by such and such a time. Meanwhile, as a Gentleman, I have been there 10 minutes early, so as not to ever be late and inconvenience my Lady. Your input is greatly appreciated.

    • MarkP on August 19, 2014 at 10:21 am

      Simple answer: A gentleman in this situation talks to the woman openly and honestly about her lack of punctuality. Start by expressing appreciation for the things that make her a “fantastic woman”, to use your own words, but then let her know how it makes you feel when she’s constantly late (frustrated, disrespected, unappreciated, whatever is you’re feeling). If she is the fantastic woman you say and wants to continue seeing you, she’ll make the effort to be punctual going forward. If she can’t do this, then she might not be so fantastic after all, or it might just be a single inherent character flaw in an otherwise wonderful woman where you need to decide if the good feelings you get from seeing her are worth the frustration and negative feelings you get when she’s late.

  4. Meryl on January 31, 2014 at 4:16 am

    One of the biggest questions that I have been wanting to ask is this: How do you know if a guy is naturally kind or if he is being kind because he likes you?

    There was this guy in my class who was kind towards me and did things for me at first but I found out later on that he’s just really kind to everyone. I thought he liked me at first and even asked me to go to the movies with him but I rejected him….thrice. Now he doesnt act kind towards me anymore. He doesnt offer help as much maybe because I rejected his offer.

    I’m asking this question cause in the future, I want to know if a guy is being kind cause he likes me or if that guy is just innately kind.


    • Jeff Douglas on January 31, 2014 at 11:55 am

      There is kind and then there is attentiveness I believe, I always try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt… I’m not one to hold grudges, and am very laid back… but being rejected 3x would cause me to want to step back from you too and not be so forth giving and especially if my notions were turned away unless it was mentioned up front that you arent interested in me in that way and its just more platonic.

    • Errol Glenn (@errolglenn) on February 20, 2014 at 10:55 pm

      He asked you out for a date. That already means he likes you.

      A man can be kind to everyone but that doesn’t mean anything other than he’s someone who wants to make things better for everyone. Do NOT misjudge this as making yourself any less to him as you think.

      If he asks for your personal attention like that, it’s a sure sign he’s interested in you.

      The reason why he’s being less kind now is because he probably thinks that you think he’s getting to close for your comfort.

      In a non-gentleman way of speaking: you dun goofed, gurl.

  5. Kevina Fullwood on January 31, 2014 at 11:25 pm

    I would love for you to write for my school newspaper… The Famuan, (opinions section).

  6. Matt on February 1, 2014 at 11:00 pm

    Nailed it. Ive been a nice guy towards everyone I know for the most part. Just my personality. Getting the hang of identifying who is taking advantage of that and who is genuinely appreciating your acts is still a work in progress. Always try to reason an argument down before it gets out of control with raised voices or even worse, fists lol

  7. ee2dieem on February 22, 2014 at 3:07 pm

    Reblogged this on Conundrum that is I.

  8. Kim on May 20, 2014 at 12:22 pm

    Love your articles. They are dead-on and its great to know I have been in a wonderful and loving relationship with a most gracious, beautiful gentleman…definitely a rare breed indeed.

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